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Coping with change

Posted on 08 August 2008

What we are talking about here…
Life is about change. It happens within you as you grow older and experiences shape you. It happens around you as our environment changes (e.g. global warming), society evolves, and as you move from one stage in your development to the next – from school to university to full time employment etc.
Why it is important to understand “the dynamics of change”…
The simple fact is that the vast majority of us prefer not to change if possible when things are OK. Like it or not however – change is a fact of life and usually involves us feeling different:
What you need to know…
You can see that at the point of change there are quite marked swings in your emotions. After this, you may well feel steadily worse – a typical experience when going to work abroad for the first time – it is called culture shock in this case. The curve is also known as the “transition curve”. The point is – it happens, you will come out of it stronger and feeling better for it.
Next Steps…
Don’t be too hard on yourself – you are not alone in experiencing this – everyone does at some point – often at quite a few points in their lives – starting a new course, moving to college digs for the first time, moving up a year, starting a new job – there is usually a point at which you don’t feel quite as good as you think you should.
Sometimes it is for a few minutes every now and again – sometimes the low time can last for days, weeks and longer. It can be tough – you may not want to be in the situation – but you are and there are some things you can do. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Is this situation in line with my purpose (am I meant to be here)?
  • Is this anything to do with my values (being compromised or challenged)?
  • What can I do and what should I do to get through this (my action plan)?
  • Who can I share this with who will listen, advise, guide, support me?

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2 Comments For This Post

  1. david dangelo says:

    embracing change and looking at the positive is key. things tend to work themselves out as they should.

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    “I started shooting portfolios for friends and somehow I have become famous for them. I’ve done the portfolios for several Miss Indias, models Diana Hayden, Nafisa Joseph, Ujwala Raul, Fleur Xavier.

    “Shooting Shiamak Davar swung me feet first on to the stage. He dragged me to Alyque Padamsee who cast me in Rashmi as the pimp who sings a song. That is the genius of Shiamak, who realized that I could act before I knew it myself.

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